When Flight is Better Then a Fight
- Is it worth arguing with the significant other?
Okay, so we’re an arguing website. You come here to find some of the best ways to argue, with maybe your spouse or girlfriend/boyfriend, but all of a sudden you see us talking about fleeing. Isn’t that a bit hypocritical you might wonder? When it comes to things of the heart, sometimes, not arguing is better then any argument you can put out there. Below you will find a list of reasons that you may not want to fight.
Humor Them – Okay, so you’re arguing about something silly like maybe the color of toilet paper. First of all, I’ve never seen colored toilet paper, but I’m sure that would be an awesome product. If your other half wants to use a certain color that you would care less about, don’t argue. I have met many chronic argue prone people, and if you are one of those, let me just say that you are in for a tough life. Arguing over everything can’t be good for your health, especially if you’re in a relationship. Also, if your arguing about an issue that’s unimportant or just plain fun. Let your other half win once in a while. It helps build rapport and can score you some mighty nice brownie points if you know what I mean.
They Need You to Listen – Out of the many pillars that constitute a great relationship, communication is one of those pivotal values that is paramount, especially during tough times. If your significant other needs you for comforting purposes, don’t argue with their view point at that time, that’s really something that they don’t need (do it later if you really have to). For instance, if they are on the brink of tears after losing a family heirloom of theirs, it is not the time for you to tell them that they should have been more careful. In this case, it’s best to help them find it – if possible, or hear out their story and let them cry on your shoulder. Arguing about it only confounds the problem, for theirs and also yours.
You Screwed up Big Time – Alright, I’m going to now assume that you WANT your relationship to last. Whether you were caught stealing from the cookie jar or caught red handed doing a big time no-no, whatever the case may be you will need to zip-it. If you were caught doing something you shouldn’t be, fess up to it and apologize. Let me say this now. Arguing that you were in the right is just not right! Even if you’re the god of arguing, and even if your partner accepts your argument at the moment, it doesn’t mean they really accept it. Bitter feelings will brood even if they can’t argue back with you, and you will be faced with a ticking time bomb that creates the foundation for a deteriorating relationship. Therefore, be wise in choosing which fights to take and which ones you shouldn’t. Exercising good decision making will only strengthen you relationship.